Friday, August 31, 2007

Check out this new novel


I love this guy's poetry...and he just published his very first novel!

Synopsis: "From the first day of his new employment Kris Noone felt disillusioned. He found himself in the banal world of sales assistants; folding garments, selling suits, serving hostile customers. He was ill at ease with his new colleagues; the haughty women obsessed with gossip and fashion, the servile junior staff with whom he had nothing in common, the strange tailor he took weekly alterations to. But it was his tyrannical manager, Vivienne, who was determined to go to any length to model him into the perfect employee. When he resisted, he was quick to realise the terrible consequences for them all."

About the Author: P. Viktor was born in Lancashire in 1979. He has a degree in English, and is currently reading psychology at Oxford Brookes University. He has published one book of poetry, A Marriage of Sorts (2007). This is his first novel.

Veneer, printed and published by Lulu, is available to purchase online from the Lulu/P.Viktor Store. It is printed in a softback edition at £10.95 ($19.99 US), or as a pdf download for £4.50.




You can also visit the Veneer page on his website for further info. It should be available from Amazon in about six to eight weeks. The ISBN for reference is: 978-1-4303-1336-6.

Tuesday, August 28, 2007

Read it here first - my next Outlook column

Back in July The Columbus Dispatch featured a story on their front page which reported the results of a study conducted by federal agency the Corporation for National and Community Service. The study included statistics from Franklin, Delaware, Licking, Fairfield, Pickaway and Madison counties. Apparently we here in central Ohio like to volunteer. 33.3% of us volunteer our time, which ranks us at number 12 in the nation’s 50 largest metro areas. Unfortunately the report also concluded that on average we only volunteer 37 hours in a year; the national average is 50. 37 hours – that is 15 hours shy of an hour a week for a year. Can we really not manage to turn off our computer or television long enough to serve our community for a lousy hour a week?

The article went on to report the findings of a separate survey on volunteerism habits conducted by Nationwide. Of those surveyed, more than half said they had no plans to increase their volunteer hours in the coming year, and 40% stated that the reason they don’t volunteer is because they can’t find an organization that matches their “values, skills or desire to make a difference.” Oh, really? I have to wonder how hard these people have tried to find matching organizations. If I had to make a guess, I’d say zero effort considering in this city you can not only support the welfare of say, dogs – but one can even be as specific as to which breed will be lucky enough to earn the attention and money of potential do-gooders.

For some reason I can’t get this article and its findings out of my head. I cut it out and pinned it to my bulletin board. I think the timeliness of the article, just a couple weeks after Pride, was what made me notice it in the first place. Here in the LGBTA community, as in the rest of the world, non-profit organizations live and die on volunteerism. They literally depend on good Samaritans to answer their phones, stuff their envelopes and of course man the booths at Pride. Since we here in central Ohio enjoy the second largest Pride celebration in the Midwest, you would think most people would be willing to give a couple of hours of their day to pour beer or sign people up to vote…yet every year LGBTA non-profits scramble to the last hour to cover all the slots.
Luckily the good people of central Ohio always seem to pull through at the last minute and we all enjoy a great day…but what about the needs of the community the other 364 days of the year?

What the article failed to discuss is of those 33.3% of volunteers, how many of those people volunteer for more than one organization? I’d wager the likelihood is pretty high. Having been a volunteer in the community for four plus years, I tend to see the same faces at local events. You’ve probably seen them too. The truth is that if an organization has 100 members on their email list, you can consider yourself successful if 10 of those people actually volunteer on a regular basis. That’s right – 10 people out of 100! In a small community like the LGBTA, the odds are high that these are the same ten people showing up to hang up your coat at a fundraiser for one group and then reporting for a get out the vote event for another group the next morning. Therein lies the rub…volunteer burn out is high and unfortunately regular volunteers often get taken for granted. These are both serious problems for the organizations that are out there working upon your behalf.

Then there are the “super-volunteers” – they are the people who don’t suddenly need to step outside for a cigarette when organizations seek a person to serve in a leadership role. These rare breed of volunteers are serving as treasurers, board members and presidents of organizations all over town. They are the ones responsible for organizing the many fundraisers and house parties you attend throughout the year. I think it would be a surprise to most people to learn that many – if not most – non-profits which serve the LGBTA community in central Ohio are being run by people not paid to do so. Rare is the opportunity to actually do good in the world and make a decent wage doing it. There is a serious lack of people to fill the shoes of the “super-volunteer” when inevitably the person who has run a group for years must step down to focus on other aspects of their lives. This is a calamity waiting to happen in groups all over town – groups whose names you know and would never assume might suddenly evaporate without the handful of people who are keeping it running day after day by volunteering their time despite their “real” jobs, families and other activities.

Non-profits in the LGBTA community serve us all each and every day – not just when the community is under attack. They work to gain and protect our rights, to educate people about homophobia and to make sure our politicians (regardless of their party) are focusing on our issues. Others work to keep us safe, to provide needed medical services/education and support us when we are at our most vulnerable. They provide a social or spiritual outlet. And finally, they give our youth a safe space and address the growing needs of our elderly. If you can’t find a group among the many who currently serve the LGBTA people of central Ohio to match your “values, skills or desires to make a difference,” might I suggest starting your own? That probably won’t be necessary in the wealth of organizations that central Ohio is blessed with, but that’s exactly what I did when I founded SpeakOUT…the rest is, as they say, history.

So, to the hard core ten people who faithfully volunteer their time again and again – I offer you a heartfelt thank you! To the other 90 people, DVR Project Runway and find an organization out there which you feel best matches your interest. Go ahead and check that little box which asks if you’d be willing to volunteer and then actually go do it! Your community is waiting.


(Information used in this article can be found in The Columbus Dispatch article “Volunteer spirit high but could be higher” by Rita Price in the July 9, 2007 issue.)

Wednesday, August 22, 2007

JDRF Walk to Cure Diabetes - Join us in funding a cure

This September will mark the one year anniversary of Brandon's diagnosis of Type 1 Diabetes. We will be walking in the JDRF Walk for a Cure on Sept. 30th (at OSU). If you would like to walk with us as one of "Brandon's Buddies" or if you can just help with a donation of any size, it would be appreciated! Visit www.jdrf.org and click on the walk section!
Our goal is to raise $100 for every month that he has had this disease...$1,200.
There is no cure...yet! JDRF is focused on finding that cure. Please help if you can.
Thank you!

Monday, August 20, 2007

What's a straight advocate to do?


See this picture? This is how I feel today! I'm so incredibly fed up with all the politics that I have to put up with just trying to be a good citizen. What am I rambling on about? Good question...
I'm talking about having to cancel my participation in Seven Straight Night for Equal Rights. (7SN) I started working on this project way back in April of this year. I agreed - reluctantly - to serve as the state of Ohio's Lead Family. When I did this, I was promised that I would receive help from day one by Equality Ohio (EO) and I assumed local ally activists would be helping too. This was a huge deal to me. I have been begging groups from Stonewall Columbus to EO to host such a thing in our city - without success. We must bring to light the fact that many, many straight people do not fall into the extreme right category of bigots and homophobes. Allies are crucial to the success of GLBT equality rights...they must give money, votes and a voice to fair treatment of all citizens. This important demographic, however, is not tops on anyone's lists in this state - which is why I started SpeakOUT.
I'm happy to report that SpeakOUT is having its best year ever! Our webpage is alive and running, attendance to our meetings is steady and growing, we are adding more and more people to our e-list and we have a full fall schedule! In fact, we just agreed to co-sponsor an LGBT candidate event in October. The best news is I finally have the interest I need from our members to begin the long 501c3 process for real. Our group is growing and vital!
Why then has the LGBT groups in this town suddenly decided that allies aren't important anymore? The new ED of Stonewall told me to my face that allies don't belong in a "gay community center". The board obviously backs her up on this too! Now EO has shown their true colors against allies by backing out of their commitment to 7SN. (The EO board is "disappointed in their allies" because PFLAG National and Soul Force are fueding over similar events during the same time frame.) EO told me in July that they didn't have the resources or time to help plan the event any longer - effectively dumping it right into my lap. When I reproached them for not reaching out to other LGBT groups around the state to help, I was told that a straight person should be doing the planning without intervention from LGBT groups, otherwise it would be seen as a "gay event". Well, hello! It IS a gay event, regardless of who is speaking or who planned it. Aren't we talking about gay equality? In every other state that is doing this, LGBT organizations are at the forefront in planning the activities. EO is just spewing excuse after excuse...but it boils down to the fact that they don't want to put out any money or time to promote allies.
I'm sick of this. I'm working my ass off - and have been for 4 years - for virtually no pay to help LGBT people get the same rights I enjoy as a straight person. It's like a kick to the balls now to have these organizations basically turn their backs on me. I'm worn out and just plain tired of the crap. It's no wonder that so many people burn out and fade away in the volunteer circles of Columbus.
So...after nearly developing an ulcer and anxiety attacks again trying to plan this state event alone, I had to remove myself from the project. Of course Soul Force is (literally) begging me to reconsider and EO didn't even have the basic good manners to reply to my email. I feel like I'm in the Godfather...getting sucked back in!
How did it ever get this complicated? How have I let my life run so completely beyond my control? Why do I have to be a bitch just to get people to respect my boundaries? I wish life were easier.
For the record: I still believe in what I'm doing. LGBT people are being treated like crap in this country and it is going to take all of us to raise up our voices to make a real change.
And for the other record: I'm still committed to helping - Martin & Ben deserve to be happy together - without exceptions. (Those of you brave enough to wade through my "saga posts" know what I am ranting on about there...)
Send me peaceful waves my dear readers...and the strength to rise above this petty bullshit!
The BBC America show you should be obsessed with like me: Jekyll (Saturdays at 9PM) starring the brilliant James Nesbitt. His "Hyde" kicks ass!
The song I can't stop listening to: "Dear Mr. President" on Pink's new album "I'm Not Dead". Click here to watch the video.

Monday, August 13, 2007

Weird Al Rocked My World!


Hey all ~ last Wednesday my dear friend Jessie D. took me to see Weird Al Yankovic at the Ohio State Fair. Honestly, I didn't know exactly what to expect...but if I had to guess what it might be like to see him live, then I'd go with something along the lines of a stand up comedy show. I can't believe how wrong I was!
He put on a straight up rock show. Seriously people...he actually rocked! Lasers, exploding confetti, 7 TV screens, about 15 different costume changes (including the "Fat" body suit!) and jammin' dance moves! It was a feast for both the eyes and ears. Plus it was plain damned hysterical. My face hurt afterwards from smiling for two hours straight.
I can't stress just how great this show was. Go see it for yourself if you ever get the chance - you won't be sorry.
It was rather surreal being there - I mean, the place was packed with people of all ages. I honestly didn't think that many people liked him. The long line of at least 50 people, which stretched across a good portion of the floor, to buy "White & Nerdy" t-shirts and hoodies proved me wrong! Plus, kudos to Al and his band for hooking us up with our favorite songs (me - "Yoda"/ Jessie - "Amish Paradise") while in full costume. My only regret was not being able to get us backstage for the meet and greet. Maybe next time!
I've been a fan of Al's since the early 80's - heck, I still have some of his earlier hits on 45's (you know - the "little records" LOL), but I had never seen him in concert before this past week. Actually, I was feeling down because once again he was in town and I just didn't have the money to go check him out live. So I want to thank Jessie for thinking of me when she scored two free tickets. THANK YOU Jess!!!! (And thank you even more for dating a chick with no taste in good music - hee hee)
Well, seeing Al was easily the highlight of my week. I forgot just how much fun it can be to blow off the rest of my responsibilities and hang out with a good friend at a concert. I had also forgotten how much I loved Weird Al...thanks to my post concert buzz, I dug out my old Al tapes and have been listening to them all week. You know, I just can't get enough of his polka medleys!
Gotta run...

Sunday, August 12, 2007

PostSecret Video

I love Post Secret...it is amazing how much we can learn from each other. What if we were all this honest in real life, instead always hiding? Would we be happier? Would we feel free?
I haven't yet mailed Frank my secret - mainly because I have too many. I guess I can share one here though...my secret is that even though most people see me as a type A, who has her shit together, and can conquer the world - I'm always scared that I'm going to fail. I wish I didn't care what others thought of me...but I do. If I'm so 'great' why don't I feel that way about myself?

Go to this site - it might change your life.

Wednesday, August 01, 2007

Great Merlin's Pants!

OMG - The Deathly Hallows was so damned good that I literally couldn't put it down! The moment I got up, I had to read a chapter. If I was in the bathroom - so was my book. I had to make myself put it down just so I could take a shower and feed my children. I found myself up until 4AM one evening/morn and 3AM the next.

Brian thinks Scholastic laces each page with cocaine or something...he might be right! ;o)

Well, I'm not going to ruin a good thing by discussing the book's contents until I know for sure that it won't spoil it for any of my dear readers...so please let me know if you are reading it. I am grateful however to have been able to immerse myself so completely in its story. It was wonderful to forget my own stress and problems for a time. Thank you Ms. Rowling!

File under: Can you freakin' believe it?! Ever since we moved into our new place about a year back, I have been fretting over my missing copy of "HP: The Order of the Phoenix." I've been looking everywhere for it. I mean, how do you misplace a bold, blue book of its size?! Turns out that my mother-in-law stole it!!! We were at her house looking for some hair pins and other stupid trinkets that she just cannot live without while at her rehab facility, when there on the bookshelf it sat! A blazing blue mountain of evidence... I had secretly thought she might have swiped it, but honestly didn't think she would do something so evil. Apparently I was right and she would! I know it is mine because at the time the book came out, I offered her the book to read when I had finished it but she declined the offer because she had already read her copy (FROM THE LIBRARY!). It was the only HP book on the shelf too...now what HP fan would only own one of the seven books? Now tell me it isn't mine?! Grrrrrr..... Let's just say it is now back on MY bookshelf. Now I am worried about my Deathly Hallows copy that I generously lent her to read! Stupid!