Thursday, September 25, 2008

A very quick update...

I'm sure everyone wants to know about my interview...

It went very well - I am so ridiculously qualified to do the job! The good news is that when I got there, the director tells me there are now 2 open positions available. So I have twice the chance to get a position. She gives a tour of the building with each interview and I have to say I'd like my new cubicle. :o)

The bad news - it is way out pass Town & Country Shopping Mall in Whitehall! When they said E. Broad St., I thought near downtown. I wasn't too thrilled with that.

I won't know anything until next Wednesday.

Keep your fingers crossed - because I haven't heard back from anyone else yet. :o(

Don't Miss this Event at the Wex...


It's Elementary: Talking About Gay Issues in School
(Debra Chasnoff, 1996)
It's Still Elementary
(Debra Chasnoff, 2007)// Double FeatureTue, Oct 7, 2008 7:00PMFilm/Video Theater


Twelve years ago, the groundbreaking documentary It's Elementary (37 mins., video) forever changed the way people thought about discussing gay and lesbian issues with children in a school setting.The award-winning film became a catalyst for a national movement to teach children respect for gays and lesbians through classroom discussions. The new documentary It's Still Elementary (48 mins., video) explores the history of why the original film was made and examines the need the film fulfilled and continues to fulfill to this day.Stay after the films for a panel discussion moderated by Brad Mitchell, director of the Franklin County Education Council, and featuring teachers from the Pink T.I.G.ers, a teacher inquiry group committed to fighting homophobia in schools. A dessert reception concludes the evening.Attention teachers: Educators who attend this film screening will be invited to sign-up for a follow-up workshop examining strategies to promote sensitivity in the classroom using a real-world arts integration project from a local school district.


TICKETS
$5 members$7 general public$5 students$5 senior citizens


EVENT SPONSORS
Cosponsored by the Pink T.I.G.ers.Additional support provided by Equality Ohio, Groundspark, Indianola K–8 PTO, Kaleidoscope Youth Center, the Ohio State University GLBT Alumni Society, and Ohio State’s Multicultural Center, Sexuality Studies program, School of Teaching & Learning, and Mansfield Campus Education Department.

Hey! That's today...

POW! BANG! KER-SPLASH!
You don’t have to don a cape and tights on September 25th, National Comic Book Day, but you may want to read all about your favorite superhero(es) and their evil counterparts. From the rise of graphic novels to the latest Batman movie to a recent Metropolitan Museum of Art exhibition exploring the connection between comic book heroes and fashion, these little action-packed magazines have had a lasting impact on our cultural landscape. They’ve also kept generations of readers entertained since Superman’s first appearance in the 1930s. Sure you’ve got your stash of prized comics, but you might also want to check out books at the library that detail the history and trends of comic books.
(*Currently I'm all about the Buffy the Vampire Slayer Season 8 graphic novels...)

Monday, September 22, 2008

And the winner is...

My good fortune is continuing into this week. I decided to spend the $50 I earned from being a guest lecturer at Ohio Dominican University on a new outfit for my interview tomorrow. I found some great pants at Target on clearance - but they didn't have my size. :o( They told me that the Polaris Target might have a pair though, so I decided to suck it up and spend the gas to go see. Sure enough they had them! AND guess what size I had to get? Not my usual size 18...but a size 16! Whoo hoo! It's probably just the way that company makes their pants - but it was still a big ego boost for me. :o)


I managed to get a new shirt, pants and earrings for less than $37. I think that was a great deal. Plus I feel so much more confident walking in with a nice new outfit. I even went and got a haircut with my left over money. I really needed one so it all worked out. The only thing I didn't get to buy was some new shoes. I just didn't have the money. Perhaps next time.


My interview is tomorrow...and I'm pretty nervous. I know I'm qualified, but I haven't had an interview in years. All I can do is be myself though and sell them on my experience. I appreciate all the kind words of luck from my readers. I'll let you know what happens.


This past weekend turned into a big cleaning frenzy at home. Brian and I spent all of Saturday cleaning our basement. Sunday we spent a large chunk of time just cleaning the house itself and doing the laundry. Sounds pretty boring - but I enjoyed being able to just hang out with my husband. We capped the night off with a trip to Rita's Italian Ice. OMG! You have to get over there and try their new Pumpkin Pie ice cream. It's excellent!


The Emmy's: I cannot believe Hugh Laurie didn't win an Emmy last night. What was worst was that he wasn't even there...so I didn't get to even see him. Grr! I also thought Michael Emerson (Ben on Lost) got totally ripped off. He was excellent this past season. I enjoyed the Emmy's this year. I liked how they did the sets from all the TV shows. Plus Josh Grobin doing Cartman from South Park was hilarious! I actually felt bad for Kathy Griffin (whom I normally despise)...Don Rickles was a nightmare. When he won for his category, I thought about shooting my television. :o) Best moment of the night was Ricky Gervais making fun of Steve Carell though. "Look at his stupid face!" I laughed and laughed! I also thought it was funny when Sally Field handed Tom hanks his Emmy...reuniting the Forrest Gump mother and son.


Friday, September 19, 2008

Feeling lucky...

This week the weather has been so beautiful. It really has lifted my spirits. I wish I could find a place to live where it is sunny with mild temperatures 90% of the year. I'm feeling rather lucky this week. I probably shouldn't have typed that...now my luck might vanish. Still, good things have been happening in my life and that is rare - so I am celebrating!


We survived the big, bad wind storm of 2008 with hardly a scratch. Trees fell near our home, but none of our trees were damaged. The worst thing I had to do was rake up all the pine cones and crab apples that fell during the storm. We also didn't lose our electricity...and therefore I didn't miss the season premiere of House! (My priorities are out of wack, no?) Several of my friends lost their electricity, however. What a hassle! I've been trying to spread some good karma around the universe though. Twice now I've gone up to random AEP employees (who are from out of state) and thanked them for their help.


Brian also won a huge raffle prize from Ballet Met! This means that we get 2 free tickets to every performance this season! I already picked up tickets for the October and November shows. We both enjoy Ballet Met's performances and I'm so excited that I am finally able to go see their production of Dracula. We also received 6 free tickets to COSI and a crap load of COSI gift shop items. I can't believe we won!
I also landed my first interview for the very first position I applied for! It's next week. I'm hoping for several more calls as I just sent in eight more resumes yesterday. Perhaps I will employed again very soon. (Fingers crossed!)

Another Secret Truth...



Who wouldn't?

I'm almost ready to forgive Brad Pitt after this...

Actor Brad Pitt gives $100,000 to California marriage fight
September 18, 2008Chris Johnson

Hollywood leading man Brad Pitt announced yesterday that he's forking over $100,000 to fight Proposition 8, the California ballot amendment to strip gay and lesbian couples of their right to marry in the state. The pledge is being touted as the largest given to the marriage fight by a Hollywood celebrity.


Brad Pitt issued a great statement against discrimination yesterday as his gift was announced: "Because no one has the right to deny another their life, even though they disagree with it, because everyone has the right to live the life they so desire if it doesn't harm another and because discrimination has no place in America, my vote will be for equality and against Proposition 8."


LOVE that, Brad! Now, where's the rest of Hollywood?!


So far, the Human Rights Campaign has donated over $2 million to preserve marriage equality in California and is a member of the Equality for All coalition working to defeat the amendment.

Tuesday, September 16, 2008

SNL Gets it right...

Wow! Tina Fey looks just like Palin...it's freaky!

Wednesday, September 10, 2008

I came here seeking clarity...


Last week was dreadful. I was in such a low pit of depression that I could barely drag my sorry ass out of bed. I can’t remember a time in the recent past that I have felt that down. (Imagine if I were not already on meds!) I could not muster an ounce of self-confidence or even self-respect…which isn’t so great when you are supposed to be out there looking for a job, or at the very least updating your resume.

Friday brought a brief happy moment. I finally made it out to meet my friend Regina and her new (if you can call a 10 month old new) baby, Xander. He was more adorable in person than in all those photos she had emailed me. A mop of curly blond locks and eyes so blue that it looked like God snatched a piece of the sky for them. He was a real charmer and I delighted in being able to hold him – twice! Surprisingly, I did not feel the pang of baby lust. I was just happy to be the friend of the mother. It was good to spend time with Regina too. I was afraid it might be awkward since it had been a long time since we had seen one another – but it felt normal and like always, at least to me.

Unfortunately as soon I left them, I got hit with a crushing wave depression again. It was all I could do not to burst into tears all the way home. In my muddled dark thoughts I was idealizing my friend’s good fortunes. She had a new car, a beautiful new son, a nice house to drive home too and a happy marriage. She knew where she would be for the next 4-5 years…and it was a happy choice. I was full of envy. Of course, I know my friend’s life is not so clean-cut and that she has her own problems like everyone else…but I couldn’t set aside my twisted thoughts in favor of reality.

I spent the whole weekend cleaning my house. Brian and I took on long ignored projects like cleaning out my son’s jammed-packed closet. Surprisingly it was the very ticket I needed to sort out my thoughts too. As we cleaned and sorted, we actually spent some time together and talked. It was a nice bonus.

This week has been much better. I actually did update my resume on Monday. While doing so, I was surprised to learn that my most recent previous employer NIBCO had gone out of business! (Well, the location I worked at is no longer in business I should say…the company still exists.) I shouldn’t admit this but I was happy. Screw them! That place was just awful to its employees. I guess karma got them in the end though. I also had to call the boss who I worked for previous to NIBCO, to get his updated information for my references. I worked for Mike at Wasserstrom and he was just the best person. I really miss seeing him every day. He was such a great friend and mentor. We chatted for almost 30 minutes and that really lifted my spirits.

I’m proud to say that I even managed to send my resume out for a couple of positions…one of which contacted me the very next day! I had fill out a questionnaire – which I did – and now I’m waiting to see what happens next. It may not be the job I end up at, but it felt good to get some sort of reply. It made me feel less like a loser and I finally felt like I had tossed that monkey of my back. I’m now in the groove of looking for a job without all the self-doubt of the week before.

One good thing did come out of all my job-hunting procrastinating last week…I worked on a lot of things for SpeakOUT. I sent out the update, planned our September meeting and sent out a press release too. I crafted a post-card to send to our members regarding the meeting and got those mailed out as well. I even managed to write and send in my latest opinion piece for Outlook Weekly. It was nice to feel like I was accomplishing something in the face of all that negativity.

I also made my decision – you know, the decision! I’m giving my notice. I will serve out the remainder of 2008 as the Director of SpeakOUT, but as of January 1st it is someone else’s responsibility. If that date comes, and there is no one to fill in my place, that is too bad and SpeakOUT will no longer have meetings (or perhaps even a group). I have given it 110% and 5 years of my life…that’s enough. I’m still planning on staying on as President of the Board though. To prove that I’m serious, I even crafted a press release for the position and SENT IT! So there!!

Well, I need to get going. I just wanted to post something so you would know that I am still out here. With any luck, I hope to have more good news to pass along to you soon.

Thursday, September 04, 2008

The Vicious Circle



TV shows today are so interactive! If you watched the premiere of the *NEW* 90210 on the CW this past Tuesday, then you know all about Silver's v-blog "The Vicious Circle." Well, thanks to the wonders of modern technology, you can actually visit her site! I wish we had this technology when I was a kid. I couldn't have imagined being able to break that invisible barrier between the world you see on television and interacting with it online. It kind of boggles the mind when you think about it.

Obviously this is nothing new. LOST does one hell of a job creating multiple real websites (and working telephone numbers) for fans to scour for hints not provided in the actual show. How I Met Your Mother's Barney has a real blog too! It's almost too much for a TV geek like me to handle.

So did you watch 90210? As a big fan of the original, I owed it to myself to watch it at least once. I thought it was OK, but I longed for more of the original characters/places than I cared about these new wannabees. I'm sure the Gossip Girl crowd will love it. I felt a bit old explaining all the inside jokes to my 11 year-old daughter, though. Was it just me or did Brenda look terrible? Too much sun worship!

What did you think?

Wednesday, September 03, 2008

My latest article for Outlook Weekly...before it hits the presses

California ’s Proposition 8 - Allies are the key to stopping it but LGBT organizations are failing to attract them with tired strategies

Have you seen the 60-second 'Garden Wedding' advertisement released by Let California Ring, a project of the Equality California Institute, which asks “What if you couldn’t marry the person you loved?” If not, you can view it online at www.letcaliforniaring.org.

The multi-million-dollar ad is currently being aired on cable stations in California which attract younger voters who are thought to be most likely to support same-sex marriage. Which begs this ally to ask the following questions; Is this specific commercial the best use of their money? Aren’t they just preaching to the choir by only airing it on stations which target youth audiences? If they are truly concerned about “changing the climate in California ” as their website declares, then shouldn’t they be reaching out to the undecided crowd? And last, but certainly not least, what is up with this terrible commercial?

Now I’m no marketing expert, and I’m sure there are many much smarter people making the decisions in this all-important ballot initiative, but this commercial makes zero sense to me as an ally (their targeted audience). The obstacles the heterosexual couple face in this ad are trivial…tripping over cans, getting blocked by wedding attendants. It certainly left no impression on me to link the commercial to the upcoming ballot initiative. For the amount of money Let California Ring spent on this ad, I think they should have showcased the real issues in a 'non-political way'…like perhaps showcasing the same heterosexual couple's evolution from just meeting to racing to the court house to apply for a wedding license - only to discover that the doors won't open for them.

I'm sure that the fine people of Let California Ring have the best of intentions, but when we are talking about finite resources (like time and money) they need to get the most bang for their buck. This commercial isn’t that - and since every LGBT organization from here to San Francisco is asking us to send contributions to California to help stop Proposition 8...well, shouldn't we be assured that our money is being spent wisely?

For as long as California has been fighting for same-sex marriage, I feel like the LGBT organizations and community should have been spending their time and money educating the general public on this issue much earlier. It is a classic mistake that I see ‘gay organizations’ make all the time. They wait until a proposition is on the table before they go knocking on John/Jane Q. Public’s door.

Let’s face it – the LGBT community is just not large or rich enough to stop or pass an issue (which directly affects their lives) without the help of straight voters. That’s why a substantial amount of time, energy and money needs to be set aside by these groups to reach out to the straight community (not just straight politicians) in order to build lasting relationships and accepting mindsets. Then they would have an established base to reach out too when anti-gay legislation comes up for a vote.

Instead, most groups spend the majority of their resources within the LGBT community – only venturing outside the ‘triangle community’ as a reaction to a volatile situation. If we want to succeed in preventing anti-gay legislation, however, we need to do so by purposefully creating a base foundation within the straight community through constant proactive outreach and education beginning as early as middle school.

The equality issues that the LGBT community faces are too important to leave up to chance. We cannot hope that every straight person out there is going to have an “ah-ha moment” and go through a social awakening without prodding.

Here in Ohio we have our own issues to address – one being the removal of “Issue One” from our state constitution. We activists have been told by the powers that be to be patient, to allow the court cases to form our path…but one thing we know is that in the end it will likely take a ballot initiative to remove this blight on our state, and that means we will need all the allies we can get. I just hope that Ohio’s LGBT groups won’t wait until a few months before the vote to spend any money or energy reaching out for help. (That's how we got into this mess in the first place!)

Ohio's LGBT organizations should be doing the ground work now…years before the actual vote occurs. I’ll leave it up to my readers to decide if this is happening here in Ohio or not, but I encourage each of you to think about the main reason we are in this boat to begin with...hint: it has more to do with a lack of education than actual bigotry. When it's our turn in the national spot light - let's make every effort (and every penny) count by not making the same mistakes.